Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Of chicken soup and motivation

They've come out with another book in the "Chicken soup" series....Chicken Soup for the Indian teenager's soul...and the buzz is that there are several more in the pipeline already. In fact, if the buzz is to be believed, in the not too distant future, we will have chicken soup made to order for the Indian mother's soul, the diabetic's soul, and the Lord alone knows who else's soul.

Speaking of the books themselves, I have to admit I haven’t read too many of them…truth be told, I’ve managed to half-read only about half of one, Chicken Soup for the Indian soul. (No, that was not a mistake…I did say half-read half a book, ergo, I have, till date, managed to half-heartedly go through half of one book in the series). To be fair, the fact that I was only half-heartedly reading this book may be easily attributed to the fact that I was simultaenously reading The Great Indian Novel by Shashi Tharoor, which I found positively unputdownable (more on that in another post), while the Chicken Soup book continued to remain in my bag for reading in the train en route to work largely because I hate leaving books unfinished.

There can be no denying that the Chicken Soup series has its own fans, and I am sure several of them will rise to its defence if I were to say that my impression, based on my limited reading so far, is that the stories featured in the book are a little on the sappy side...well, I'll reserve my judgment till I actually finish reading the book (Yes, I am yet to finish it.)

But what struck me is not the book itself, but the genre to which it belongs...the genre of the motivational book. If one saunters into any bookstore worth its salt today, one is more likely than not to come across an entire section in the book store devoted to motivational books, or its first cousin, the self help book. Some stores, instead of restricting themselves to the narrow category of motivational books, prefer to club together a larger variety, resulting in an eclectic, and almost always interesting, mish mash of motivational books, self help books and books on self- improvement/ self- enlightenment/ self-awareness. And if the sale of books in this section is anything to go by, it would appear that there are a lot of people out there who need motivation, help and guidance in navigating their way through their experiences, careers, relationships and lives...

For starters, the surge in the sale of motivational books has me wondering whether we, as a generation, are facing a serious lack of motivation at large. To what else could one attribute the fact that to add to mid-life crisis, for instance, a significant chunk of the adult population is also facing what has been termed by experts as the “quarter-life crisis” – a situation where after having doggedly followed a dream or an ambition to make it big, land that plum job or secure admission in that foreign university for the longest time, once the said goal has been achieved, a vast section of today’s youth in urban India, find themselves floundering and hunting for inspiration to continue. The trend of succesful professionals who’ve quit their myriad succesful (and mostly corporate) jobs to take up something that makes them happy…ranging from painting, to travel and tourism to cooking to scuba diving, while a most heartening trend, also begs a question that could well be the corollary to the theme of this post, ergo, why would people want to take on or stick to jobs that do not motivate them? The answers to the question could be many, ranging from the paypacket (sad but true) to complacence, to more recently, the economic downturn, which makes it a wise decision to stick to a job one may not absolutely love, but which is comfortable and secure.

So how does one really describe this elusive yet all important emotion we call motivation? Does it mean (to put it in cliched terms) jumping out of bed every morning, ready to take on the world, face new challenges and emerge the winner in all circumstances? Does it mean (figuratively) bobbing up and down all over the place and trying to put one’s finger in as many pies as possible?

I would think all the above may be better employed to describe enthusiasm rather than motivation, and therefore the attitude typically exhibited by someone new to something. Ask me, been there done that. But what happens when the initial enthusiasm wears off? Also, given that not all of us may have been blessed in that we’ve discovered our true calling and are doing something that we honestly feel deeply about, how does one keep the motivation from lagging? Is motivation really something that can be conjured at will, or is it something that is inherently present in some and lacking in the others? Or again, is it that over time, our understanding of motivation has become straitjacketed, inasmuch that only certain qualities are taken as being indicative of motivation while everything else is not? Questions, questions and some more questions, none of which I have a ready answer to…

On a related note, another thing worth a thought would be the outcome of reliance solely on motivational books…for instance, A senses lack of motivation in himself (or herself) and while wondering what to do about it, saunters into a bookstore, comes across a book on motivating oneself, browses through it and decides that this book was written with him (or her) in mind and is therefor the panacea for all his (or her) problems. Having bought the book and after trying to implement the suggestions contained therein, A waits for the miracle to happen, when A will feel motivated and supercharged to take on anything that life throws his (or her) way…nothing happens, and A is further disillusioned, thinking that maybe his problem is beyond help, when really, no help has been sought at all. Is this therefore a vicious cycle?

I wonder whether it is ironical that in a country which frowns on a visit to the shrink for help, motivational and self help books enjoy robust sales, or whether it is because we as a nation frown on approaching an “outsider” for help, no matter how qualified the “outsider” may be, that we turn to other sources like motivational books, which may or may not address the issue at hand? For what else is a motivational book, if not self –medication, loosely translated. And in all probability, it comes with the attendant side effects of self medication as well…

The house is open for discussion…

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Hunger

I am hungry right now...one of my colleagues would typically respond to that with a "So, when are you not?" Well...that's not true! (At least not entirely :-) ) True, am always game to try anything that I haven't tried before (well, mostly) and I generally do not refuse a genuine offer to share food...especially when it comes from one of my colleagues in this old style law firm with Bawa (colloquial for Parsis) associations where I work...though please note the use of the qualifier "genuine"...

As an aside, Parsis, much like my community of birth, the Bangalis, live their life surrounded by food...food, and discussions about food, form an integral part of the life of any self respecting Bawa, and this attitude tends to seep into you, even if you are not a Bawa, but are only surrounded by them at all times.The best examples in this regard would perhaps be the colleagues I mentioned earlier...as the story goes, no one in my office, at any point of time, says no to food. Any refusal to at least taste food offered by another at the lunch table is immediately followed by concerned queries of the nature of "Why? What happened? You not feeling good? Stressed at work?" This, coupled with the general bonhomie at the lunch tables in the terrace of the Office is also part of the charm here...a rare place where everyone starting from partner to lowly intern sits across the table and shares their lunch with the others on that table.

But I digress. This post today is not about the Office, nor about the colleagues, and not even about food...it is, on the contrary, about lack of food.

As I just mentioned, I am hungry. And I am looking forward to reaching home and cooking myself a nice, hot meal. Ordinarily, I would impatiently chop vegetables, soak rice and dal, change and freshen up somewhere between taking out the cooker, placing it on the burner, putting the tadka and turning on the television for my daily dose of Discovery Travel and Living/ NDTV Good Times/ music/ news...just about managing to hang in there till the food was done and on my plate. But what, as the thought suddenly struck me, if there was no hot food to look forward to? What if I was hungry but I didn't know where my next meal was coming from? Or if I had food in front of me, but was forced to choose not to eat it, rather saving it for my children waiting for me?

What would it be like to be actually hungry, I wonder? I mean, hungry not because I had to skip lunch today because of a series of meetings lined up through the day, but because I have not had a morsel to eat for the past four days? In this day and world where we are constantly bombarded with advertisements, endorsements and such like containing or about food, where mounthwatering food from across the globe is a mere phone call and 30 minutes (or even less) away, I wonder how many of us have actually experienced hunger...not to sound holier-than-thou or champion for the downtrodden, only because it's fashionable to be so, but as a genuine question.

I, speaking for myself, have not...and I do not know how feasible it is to try and put myself in the shoes of a genuinely hungry person by foregoing food for the next four days...for the purpose still does not get served. Even if I abstain from food for a predetermined period, I still know that I have ready access to food on the other side of that time period (or even during it, for that matter)...for me, it is just a question of wilful abstinence.

What is therefore, perhaps feasible, is to try and find a way to ensure that even someone who is genuinely hungry has access to food - like a place a person can go to when really hungry, assured of getting food (and not losing dignity in the process of getting that food). Sure, there are charitable organisations which undertake this activity on a much more regular basis and on a larger scale than I can even imagine, the Iskon temple at Juhu being the first name that comes to mind in this context...but where is the aam admi (or aurat, to be politically correct) on the road like me involved in the process? Is sustainable charity or concern for another the exclusive preserve of politicians or those who have renounced the world?

At this juncture, one may ask how the involvement of the aam admi in the process will result in any effective contribution or significant difference, for the issue is far larger than one or even several 'me's are capable of addressing, and especially because we all have come across at least one instance of an initiative begun with honest and commendable intentions, but which has fizzled out somewhere along the way, either because the enterprise requires too much time and effort, which an average Joe (or Jane) with a day job and possibly a family to take care of, may not be able to afford, or it is simply not sustainable...but I suppose a thought stands for something...and given appropriate effort, may translate into action, not at a grand scale maybe, but at a smaller scale, one that I could sustain over time...at least, it can't hurt to try.

Will keep you posted on what happens thereafter...as the train pulls into the station, it is time to pack the laptop and head home...where hot food awaits me...didn't I tell you I was hungry? :-)